Top Part of The Middle of Top Ten

another response to Shonnie's "Top 10" - posted on 04.10.06

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• Having an option for divorce is a good thing. Now hear me out. Commitment holds stronger if it there is a choice to not commit. Between two people, having no way out could be a breeding ground for resentment that chokes the relationship. If a problem arises and you feel that you are stuck in a relationship, you may feel as a helpless victim, removing yourself, and removing responsibility, from a relationship that requires work in the first place. Likewise, if you believe that the other person has no other choice but to stay with you, then commitment has become your leash. You may become more careless and unintentional in your relationship. You may start to take the other for granted. Instead, if you view that divorce (legally or not) is a real option, but “NOT an option that YOU will choose” you’ll begin to understand what commitment is. You begin to understand what love is. I believe that God made us this way from the beginning. He could’ve made us love Him and disregard free will. But He didn’t. Instead, He sought us and is constantly showing us that not loving Him does not make sense. All the while, we know that God can choose to leave us at any time if He wanted to. He has the ability. But He said that He won’t, and He keeps to his word. We then cleave to Him because being apart from Him is not an option that we will choose… hopefully. Our commitment is now stronger. That’s why we were given free will. So, choose to love and choose to commit... constantly and consistently give them reasons to reciprocate that commitment and love.
  

~nugy